Seenstr - Hacking Human Nature

The Internet operates under a rich set of protocols. Protocol is just a fancy way of saying set of rules.

When a packet leaves one machine and heads out to its destination, it must be assembled in such a way that any other machines it encounters will be able to recognize what it is, and what to do with it. If something was not put together correctly, the protocol has been violated. In the best case, the packet is simply discarded, and the system goes on about its business as if nothing happened. In the worst case, we say the behavior of the system is undefined. We cannot say what will happen, and the outcome may be unexpected.

Seduction, too, operates under a rich set of protocols, and attraction is one of them. We need to follow the attraction protocol if we want a woman to feel attraction for us. Any variation from the protocol will result in failure. The good news is, there is no such thing as unexpected behavior in the realm of human interaction. All behavior is expected, if you know the full set of protocols.

I got a question. I went to a party at a kid’s house the other night and i couldn’t get any girls to notice me. What would you say is the best way to accomplish that?

Keith

Well Keith, this is exactly why I led with the concept of protocol.  Getting a girl to “notice” you is a naive way of saying getting a girl “attracted” to you.  We don’t want them to notice you, we want them to be attracted to you.

Here’s the bad news: women do not just notice guys.  Men notice women all the time, because our primary selection device is a woman’s outer beauty.  It is easy for us to notice a woman, because we can tell just by looking at them whether or not we are attracted to them.

Women simply do not work like this.  Have you noticed that beautiful women can often be seen on the arm of ugly, fat men?  Or that really good looking guys often get stuck with less than beautiful women?  This is because women do not rank beauty at the top of their list of attraction factors.

So here’s the answer to your question: you don’t get girls to notice you, you make them attracted to you.

How do you do this?  Read this blog often.  I reveal a piece of the puzzle every day.  But for starters, just remember that if you sit around waiting for them to notice you, you will consistently go unnoticed.  You first need to learn the approach — how to walk up to a woman and initiate the conversation (referred to as opening the set).   Then you need to begin satisfying her attraction triggers in order to facilitate her attraction to you.

In fact, the less she notices you before you open the set, the better off you are.

This is the protocol.  It will not work any other way.  Every time it worked a different way, it really didn’t, you just didn’t notice how the steps were playing out.  Women do not notice us until we make ourselves noticeable.

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