Seenstr - Hacking Human Nature

A classic criticism of PUAs and their methods is that “it only works on idiots, nightclub skanks, strippers and sluts”.

Well, no it doesn’t — in fact it will work on anyone (and as Neil Strauss pointed out in The Game, the smarter a girl is the better it will work). But I want to take a moment to defend the nightclub as a place to find and meet women.

If you ask a conservative old-timer what he thinks is the best place to meet a woman, he might say “at church”. Why do old guys think church girls make good mates?

Because those old farts were looking for girls with a “man is the head of the household” type mentality. They want a mousy girl who “knows her place”. Personally, any woman who is going to lay down at my feet and obey my every command makes me go limp like nothing else. For me, I’ll take a powerful girl who wants to fight me a little bit any day. Any woman who wants to stay home, cranking out babies and cooking dinner can fuck right off. I cherish my youth, and I want to keep on cherishing it until the day I day. And I want a woman who can keep up with me in that.

Why a club girl? Simple. Club girls are fun as hell. Club girls live for a good time. Club girls never want that good time to end. That doesn’t make them sluts, and it doesn’t make them whores. In fact, most of them aren’t. What it does make them is fun.

Now compare that to the kind of girl who thinks a club girl is a worthless whore. That girl has a different life in mind. She wants to get married. She wants to have children. She wants a guy who will get old real quick making money almost as fast as she can spend it.

Wow, that sounds nice, doesn’t it?

Not a lot of women can see the equivalence of a gold-digging woman and a whore. A lot of men, however, see it plain as day. To us, there isn’t a lot of difference between a girl who charges guys a flat fee to have sex with them and a girl who hunts wealthy guys willing to keep them in diamonds — to have sex with them. The only difference is, the whore will more likely introduce herself as a whore. The other woman will slap you across the face for suggesting she’s banging her ugly, fat, old husband for his money.

You probably never thought a stripper would make a good girlfriend. They would, and here’s why: they are fun, they aren’t in a hurry to settle down, and they typically don’t give a fuck about how much money you have. They’ve got their own money, and probably more than you. If they are with you, there’s a good chance it’s because they actually like you. How many women have you dated (or married) that you can honestly say that about?

Club girls are the same. If you meet a girl at a club, there’s a better chance that she’s the kind of girl men dream about than if you meet her at, say, work. Or at church for that matter.

A big part (perhaps the biggest) of hacking human nature is hacking your own nature. Step one is understanding what you really want, and separating out the pressures of society from your own, true, inner desires.

“I can’t date a stripper. How would I introduce her to my parents?”

Easy, like this: “mom, dad, I’d like you to meet Alexis. She’s an exotic dancer, and she makes me super happy.”

Why are you so concerned with what your parents will think about what you do with your adult life? There’s a 99% chance that they’ve fucked their adult life up so bad that they are just two miserable humans at this point. Does their opinion really matter?

To me, taking advice on love and life from our parents is roughly akin to taking financial advice from a bum in a dumpster. They clearly don’t know what they’re doing, and they’ve demonstrated a significant inability to derive happiness from the world, and as such they fail to be a good source of advice and guidance.

You know what you want. I know what you want. You want what we all want — to be happy. Simply, to live a happy life. Nothing more. However you need to attain that, and whoever you need to be with in order to attain that, is up to you, and you alone.

Like everything I post here, this isn’t meant to be taken literally.  I’m not advocating trolling strip clubs in order to find your future mate.  I am advocating changing your outlook on things, and considering drastically different points-of-view in order to make good, honest decisions in your life.  Think about the idea of dating a stripper, and introducing her to your parents.  How far is it from what you know you are expected to do?

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